One of the interesting concepts I learned from Laura Vanderkam’s books : 168 hours and I Know How She Does It is the concept of ‘time confetti’.
Coined by Brigid Schulte, author of ‘Overwhelmed: Work, Love, And Play When No One Has The Time’, she explains the idea of “time confetti” – a fragmentation that impacts our health, quality of life, productivity and creativity. This fragmentation amounts to “contaminated time” that prevents pure enjoyment, relaxation, focus, and mindfulness.
Interesting as it was, coupled with Laura Vanderkam’s excellent suggestion to keep a list of 100 dreams and activities to indulge in during our spare time, I am totally inspired to use all my spare Moments wisely. Considering that as a SAHM, my schedule revolves around ensuring other people’s schedules, it becomes even more important for me to keep energizing and progressive tasks at arms reach. Thus began the ‘Spare Moments’ posts: for accountability, commitment, encouragement and the clarity that comes from a written chronicle.
This week was full of spare Moments.
- The time at the car service station when T fell asleep and Hubs was on call. I made conversation with a fellow car owner and also read two chapter of ‘Business, Networking and Sex (not what you think)’
- A friend came over to play Lego with T (an earlier promise to T that was made good 🙂). So, I got half hour to read Gretchen Rubin’s ‘The Four Tendencies’.
- T caught a kind of stomach bug and was home with me for two whole days. While they were upsetting, it meant that I crooned a lot more than usual. So, my plans to practice singing got fulfilled.
- We are transitioning T to a separate bed. Hubs took charge of two days, meaning I got an hour’s worth of readibg done. I used this time by reading the Four Tendencies and a Harlequin Romance.
- Since, T was home and needed to be distracted from solid food, we did some great coloring, got some photos put up in her room, and enjoyed Lego building. We are in the process of making different castles from our imagination.
While these are not wonderful examples, I do feel ennerved that I spent the unexpected chunks of time on inspiring activities rather than wondering what to do or scrolling through social media.
Have you made a list of activities to do in spare time? Do you keep a 100 Dreams list? Have you read these books? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Reading and following this to curb my urge to yell, thanks to a not-so-charming world:
Ah! The challenges of ordinary everyday life! Who says it’s ordinary or even simple?!
Have a blessed week ahead!
Remember the days when research meant a trip to the library and poring over an armload of books. What with the new School year, T’s best friend’s moving away, our shift to a new neighborhood, missing grandparents after having them all summer, and reaching new milestones, little T is having quite a few adjustments to make. All part of growing up, yes.
But, I am always game to learn a few new things. And what better than a good old fashioned book to do so. Teaches T that mom loves books and gives me a chance to indulge in my favorite activity and gain helpful strategies too! Win-win!
This book has been on my reading list for a while now. So many of my parent friends recommended this book. Especially the really sorted, have-it-all-together ones. After even my youngest mom friend had finished the book, I decided I have to find out just where are they getting it. Turns out, the ebook version was in our library. 🙄
I am half way through the book and I love it. Even if you are not a parent who yells too much (every parent yells at some point or the other 😜), this book has very good strategies for when your child is being their most childishly annoying self.
This next book was a find in the Parenting section of our library. (Paperback) I am constantly bemoaning with fellow moms how our naughty darlings turn into such angels the minute they step into their schools. I keep pestering T’s teachers about tips to understand what they are doing. Almost all the amazing Kindergarten teachers I have met across continents are roughly of the same mound as Madame Gazelle from Peppa Pig. Encouraging, polite yet firm and adept at getting kids to listen, follow and blossom.
Imagine then, what I felt when I spotted this book! Absolute delight and thrill. Again, I have read a third and already I am so impressed. I can’t wait to finish the rest.
Both these books don’t advocate blindly following the strategies listed. Indeed, they lay out the techniques merely as guidelines to be adapted to each child and parent based on our personal beliefs, strengths and values. I am so happy to have laid my hands on such wonderful texts. I look forward to sharing my detailed reviews once I finish.
I would like to point out here, that the Kindergarten book is obviously meant for parents of 3-6 year olds. But, it does have a section for older kids and mentions how the tips can be tailored to suit kids of all ages.
I have read some amazing books on parenting in the past like ‘No Regrets Parenting’ and ‘Bringing up Bebe’. Hence, I am happy to add to my list these two books as well.